Dear Diary, Recently, my sister and I had a conversation about what we call Stacy Shenanigans. If you haven’t heard, actress Stacy Dash spoke about about segregation on Fox News. And of course, her statements, that go against what many people believe, went viral. There shouldn’t be a Black History Month. We’re Americans. Period. That’s it.~Stacy Dash Yes, Stacy, I am American. But no, that’s not it. The Reason I get why Fox featured her. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. I just hate when people think one (insert race) person is a spokesperson (for insert race). When I worked as a television reporter, I was often asked to speak on behalf of all Black folks. I was assigned to go into poor Black neighborhoods on a regular basis, because as an older white reporter told me, You look like them. I look like a cop. I responded and said, Just because I’m Black, doesn’t mean I relate to every Black person and share the same experience. I grew up in a two parent, middle class, Christian household, which doesn’t fit your stereotypical image of a single mom on welfare–something not only offensive but inaccurate. And let’s not even touch on classism. As a reporter, you should be able to report on everyone, including those of different racial and economic backgrounds. Get to know us. He didn’t get to know me, or get it. Neither did the news director who continued to assign me stories, like Kwaanza–a holiday he thought every African-American celebrated. Indeed, it’s a beautiful celebration, something I will observe with my daughter, but I wasn’t lighting candles in Kentucky. The Celebration Now back to sister Stacy. This is why we still have Black History Month, and in the case of this article, Black Mom Bloggers. It’s not because we want to separate ourselves from society. In fact, it’s probably the opposite. I write to prove that moms, of all races, have more in common than people think. I write, because our differences should be respected, embraced and celebrated. Our stories should be told. It’s not racist to be proud of who you are (It is racist to think that you are better than someone else just because of the color of your skin!) I love being a Black woman–wouldn’t trade my caramel coated skin in for the world. It’s critical for my daughter, and every little brown girl, to know women who look like them are achieving and accomplishing great things. Although Diary of a First Time Mom is written with all moms in mind, the ultimate goal is to take control of the stories being told about African-American mothers. Our voices must be included in conversations about raising America. Black lives matter, but that doesn’t mean white lives don’t. Black moms have a wide range of experiences—some mothers are married, single, working, staying at home, young, middle-aged, educated or raising children in interracial and interfaith households. But unfortunately, we are sometimes placed into one bucket. And when single black mothers are discussed, they are sometimes stereotyped when in fact they each took different paths to parenthood. Some women failed at relationships, exited abusive situations, divorced or were widowed. But rarely in mainstream media are these women credited for making rational decisions to leave. Rarely are women credited for obtaining government assistance to care for their family when facing temporary trials. So my artistic goal is to tell stories about mothers of color that appeal to mothers of all colors. One day, maybe when my daughter grows up and becomes a blogger, we won’t need to create lists. Everyone will receive equal and accurate air play. Until then, get to know some of my fellow #BlackHistoryMonth Black Mom Bloggers. Click a link everyday throughout February and beyond! #BlackHistoryMonth Black Mom Bloggers Day 1 A’s: A Proverb’s Wife, A Real Urban Mom, ABC Remix, And Starring as Herself, As Told by V Day 2 B’s: Baby and a Blog, Baby Brown Sugar, Baby Making Machine, Baby Shopaholic, Beauty by Amber, Becoming Family, Belly Button Boutique Blog, Belly Itch Blog, Bernetta Style, Britney Dearest, Brown Mamas, Black and Green Mama, Black and Married With Kids, Black Glamour Mom, Blessed Be The Tie, Brown Media Mama Day 3 C’s: Candid Belle, Camesha Mama Motivator, Chaton’s World, Chewsy Lovers, Chic Busy Mom, Chocolate Mom Loves Vanilla, Cinco Mom, Cleverly Changing, Cocoa Mommy, Coily Locks, Co-parenting 101, Compete to Succeed, Crunchy Disney Ma, Crystal Blake, Cutie Booty Cakes Day 4 D’s: Dancing With Motherhood, DC Thrifty Mom, Dear Dumplin, Deborah Jerome, Diary of a First Time Mom, Diary of a Stay at Home Mommy, Dior and Diapers, Divas With a Purpose, Dude Mom Day 5 E: Epic Mommy Adventures, Encourage Growing Families, Everyday Eyecandy Day 6 F: Fab Haute Mama, Fit Faith Life, From Bree With Love, Front Rom Mama, From Carpools to Cocktails Day 7 G: Girlfriends With Goals, Glamzini, Good Enough Mother Day 8 H: Harlem Lovebirds, Headbands for Today, Her Life Inspired, His Mrs. Her Mr., Here Wee Read, Honey and Lime, Houseful of Nicholes, Hysterical Mom Day 9 I: I Choose the Sun Day 10 J: Jamaican Mommies, Just Jeanae, Justice Jonesie Day 11 K: Keen Mom, Kiddie Matters Day 12 L: La La Land Mommy, Ladies Live and Learn, Laugh Out Loud Mommy, Life With Tanay, Living the Solo Mommy Life, Love, Peace and Tiny Feet Day 13 M: Mama Knows It All, Mamademics, Mamalicious Maria, Mani K Mom, Mel, a Dramatic Mommy, Melisa Source, Messy Momma, Mimi Cute Lips, Mocha Glam Mom, Mocha Manual, Mom’s New Stage, Mom Talk With Denise LaRosa, Moments With Mommy, Mommie Knows Fresh, Mommy 2 K, Mommy Delicious, Mommy Posh, Mommy Talk Show, Mommy Week, Mommy Wife and Life Blog, Mommy’s Dressing Room, Moms ‘N Charge, Moms With Tots, Mother of the World, Mrs. Wright Writes, My Brown Baby, Mushy Mamma, My Mommy’s Neighborhood Day 14 N: Neosha Loves, Nicki’s Random Musings, Nicole’s Lifestyle Lounge Day 15 O: OK Dani, Outside the Box Mom Day 16 P: Pecan Momma Tales, Pharr Away, PhilZENdia, Pretty Frugal Diva, Product Review Mom Day 17 Q: Quick, register a site that starts with the letter Q! Day 18 R: Rattles and Heels Day 19 S: Sailing Autistic Seas, Savvy Chic Mom, Seeing It Their Way, Serene Mom, Shaquinta Monique, Simply T Nicole, Smart and Sassy Mom, So Full Sista, Soca Mom, Sophistishe, Spelhouse Mom, Swai-Rai Day 20 T: Tinseltown Mom, The Afropolitan Mom, The Bajan Texan, The Chic Stay at Home Mom, The Cubicle Chick, The KD Collection, The Mahogany Way, The Mamihood, The Mommy Factor, The Sexy Single Mom, The Single Mom’s Corner, The Strength of She, The Solo Mama, The Young Mommy Life, Thirty Plus Mom, Throw up and Theology, Triplets in Tribecca, Truly Tafarkari Day 21 U: Unlikely Martha, Unscripted Motherhood Day 22 V: Vaneese (an amazing DFTM writer) pens her stories at As Told by V Day 23 W: We Got Kidz, Weather Anchor Mama Day 24 X: X’cuse me!!! What about the blogs that begin with a number? We got you covered, click 4 Hats and Frugal, 2 Black Mammas, 2 Groovy Moms Day 25 Y: Y stop here? Y not rewind to letter A again? Day 26 Z: There are no Zzzz’s, but let’s not sleep on the dads! Visit 4 Father’s Journal, I’m a New Daddy, Jackie Bledsoe, Life With Dad, Makes Me Wanna Holler, Mocha Dad Day 27 Social Media Lists & Directors: Baby and Blog’s Black Mommy Bloggers, Diary of a First Time Mom’s African-American Mom Bloggers Twitter List, For Harriet’s 10 Awesome Black Mom Bloggers to Follow, Madame Noir’s 11 Mom Bloggers You Should Bookmark, Mama Knows It All’s Influential African-American Mom Bloggers, The Root’s Mom Bloggers You Should Know Day 28 Show love to bloggers of all colors throughout February! Who are you favorite bloggers across color lines? 10 Responses Elle (@CleverlyChangin) February 3, 2016 So many fabulous blogs, I can’t wait to check them all out. Thanks for putting together such an encouraging list! Reply Jennifer February 4, 2016 Holy goodness gracious compilation! This is amazing and I’m sure must have been A LOT of work! THANK YOU for putting this list together is such an organized fashion during this wonderful month. You rock! Reply Laila (@FrontRowMama) February 4, 2016 Thanks so much for including my blog! <3 Reply Saidah Washington February 4, 2016 Heather it’s such an honor to listed among so many amazing bloggers! Thank you for including me and presenting our story so wonderfully! I’m so excited about sharing this. Reply Camesha | Mama Motivator February 4, 2016 What a great roundup. I’m honored to be included! Reply Dani February 4, 2016 Only you could find a way to make a roundup that’s been done to death, super duper unique! Thanks so much for including OKDani! (PS Stacy Shennanigan’s name is StacyStupes in our house lol) Reply Heather Hopson February 4, 2016 Awwww, so sweet! You’re welcome. Honored to be among you! lol @ your nickname! Reply Diane @ Philzendia February 6, 2016 Thank you for putting this together. This is such a great resource! 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