Dating Diary: Dating Laz Alonso—No Deception at all! Heather Hopson March 11, 2013 Uncategorized 23 Comments This weekend, I was the envy of all of my girlfriends—single and married. I attended the Disney Dreamer’s Academy to report for my blog, Diary of a First Time Mom, and my other love, Black and Married with Kids. The girls weren’t jealous of my quality time with Mickey Mouse–who by the way, is much shorter in person! They envied the handsome actors I spent time with. Lance Gross—who is as sweet as he is sexy, Lamman Rucker—who is as grounded as the day we met on a public bus 15 years ago, and Laz Alonso whose spirit is as beautiful as his smile. Someone whispered into my ear, asking if Laz was only eye candy and couldn’t string a sentence together. He proved her wrong when he had an eloquent and inspirational conversation on stage, and a genuine approach off. I thought about my column and wondered what it would be like to go out on a date with him. A good-looking guy isn’t always a model man. I wondered why Meagan Goode’s character (Joanna) on NBC’s Deception didn’t give him much play. So, when he was off the clock, Laz and I went on a date. So what if a dozen people didn’t give us the privacy we wanted. So what if it wasn’t “technically” a date. Ok, it was more like a red carpet press line. We didn’t sit down to eat a meal or to watch a movie. But we did engage in an interesting exchange, which at times is more satisfying than steak. Heather: Laz, what are you looking for in a significant other, in a mate? Laz: A mate? (Laughs) I never referred to a woman as a mate. Heather: Right, but I’m not referring to someone you casually date. I’m talking about the person you might marry. Laz: (Smiles) Right. When I’ve had the best relationships—that to me have stood out above the rest, I wasn’t looking. I was open and available. And I met the person that in my opinion God felt I needed at the time. You know how they say you have friends that are there for a moment, what is it—a reason, a season, a lifetime? Heather: Yep. It’s in Ecclesiastes. Laz: Right. There we go! I have not yet met my mate (laughs), my lifetime mate, but I do know that she’s out there. And it’s my job to remain open and to remain available. And to not clutter my life with unnecessary people who would keep her away in the event that I do meet her. Heather: When you meet her does she have to come in a certain package? Do you have any nonnegotiables? Laz: I wouldn’t want someone to use a nonnegotiable on me. Or write me off for something without getting to know me and my character, and who I am. Obviously you have things that attract you, but I try my best to not to have any nonnegotiables. You never know who’s going to be that one. Heather: Expectations are so different now. I just reentered the dating scene. I don’t date men who don’t pick up the phone and rely mainly on texting as a form of communication. Would you text back and forth? Laz: My phone is my office. In my profession, I don’t have a workplace that I go to everyday. I get so many texts and emails—my agent, my manager, everybody’s hitting me. When it comes to personal relationships, I don’t want to text. I’m not going to sit and have an emotional or three page conversation telling you how I feel when we can do that in a conversation. And the beauty of technology is you can Facetime, Tango or Skype. You can see the person when you talk to them. And really see and hear their sincerity. I try to keep my text communication to business and my personal relationships more personal. Heather: Sometimes people think children are deal breakers. Do you date women with children? Laz: If you’re being selective about whom you date, then they will allow a child to be a reason to write someone off. I think when I’ve dated women with children, more than anything; it was planning around and coordinating around soccer practice or basketball practice. Or maybe they have a play. Things like that. It’s not a situation where you can just say, “Hey, what are you doing tonight at seven?” You have to plan. Heather: Just like you plan around your schedule as an actor, right? Laz: Exactly. At times I’ve even offered to chip in. It’s like; we’re both going to enjoy this date. This isn’t just you. You shouldn’t be the only one coming out-of-pocket on a babysitter. Let me help out. I’ll pay for the babysitter. I’m the one inviting you out on a date. I think it’s more of a respecting each other’s time thing more than anything. A child to me shouldn’t be a reason why a relationship shouldn’t work. Heather: I agree! Thank you. Laz: Thank you. It was nice meeting you. And that’s how our date ended. Until we meet again over dinner or drinks, but definitely not over text messaging! Tonight, I’ll cuddle on the couch, and tune in to NBC’s Deception, perhaps cursing under my breath at Joanna for sleeping with Will (Laz) and then running into the arms of a rich man. Hey DFTM Fam–what do you want me to ask Laz on our second “date?” 23 Responses Karla T. March 12, 2013 Please tell me that you at least asked him out. Like on a real date… Reply GG March 12, 2013 Awesome chica! I’m always glad to hear when the personality of a celebrity matches the handsomeness on the outside. 🙂 Can’t wait to see who else you got to interview!!! Reply Sherry March 12, 2013 He sounds like a great guy, and I love Deception. Reply Farah March 12, 2013 He’s da man! Reply Christine March 13, 2013 Ha! I love it! But I’m with Karla: you did ask him out on a real date, right? 😉 Reply newmom0608 March 16, 2013 Karla & Christine, no, didn’t ask him out on a second “date.” lol. I’m kinda old-fashioned. He should ask me, right? Hollywood or not! lol Seriously, it was great to meet him in person. I only watch a few shows, including Deception. Reply Kim March 13, 2013 LOL! Such a cute interview! He seems grounded, and like he has as intriguing a personality as he does a handsome face–what a great package. Very well-thought out questions, Heather! Can’t think of what you’d need to ask him on your “2nd date”–but let us know how that turns out ;-). Reply Carolyn March 13, 2013 Awesome job on this blog! Reply Janeane Davis March 15, 2013 A very nice interview. Thanks for sharing it with us. Reply Aja March 16, 2013 Sounds like a date to me! Great interview. Reply newmom0608 March 16, 2013 I know right! It was a date…lol…at least in my mind, and that’s what matters. Reply Val March 16, 2013 Look at Laz dropping some knowledge. Great questions and excellent responses from Laz. Folks need to realize that Hollywood is a business, and it is a given that these men know how to handle their own. All the best for him. Good job. Reply newmom0608 March 21, 2013 Thank you! He seems like a very grounded person. Happy that success has found a way to him. Reply Chasing Joy March 16, 2013 I like what he said about not looking but being open and available. That’s what I’m trying to be. Reply newmom0608 March 21, 2013 Yes! Be open & available, which is so different that desperate & settling for less. Reply Joyce@MommyTalkShow March 18, 2013 He’s right about NOT looking for someone to date. That’s what happened when I met my husband. I was just hanging out with people and relaxed. Reply newmom0608 March 21, 2013 I always meet people when I’m not look, and meet the wrong people when I am! lol Reply Monica J March 25, 2013 He is sooo cute. I really like his character on Deception, one of my favorite shows this year. I agree with what he said about being open and available. That’s usually how love happens. Good for him. Thanks for sharing the interview and for asking some interesting questions. Reply newmom0608 March 28, 2013 Yes! I love Deception. One if only three shows I actually tune into on a weekly basis:) That and Scandal! Reply Shayla April 2, 2013 After reading the interview, I may need to check out Deception. I loved what he had to say about dating women with children. Reply newmom0608 April 28, 2013 Me too! Raises the bar for men who ask me out…lol. Loved that he said that both people are enjoying the date, so why should the woman carry the burden of the extra expenses. Reply Dating Lamman Rucker: Why He Wants to Get Married…Someday | Diary of a First Time Mom June 15, 2013 […] our dreams. We would have chased each other. Lamman may not have moved to California to become a Hollywood heartthrob, and I would not have relocated overseas to host a television show. He wouldn’t have landed a […] Reply Keletso September 24, 2013 i loved that! i have plenty of questions! ok since he has no list of requirements. 1 how does he feel about age gaps? 2what qualities does he dream, or wish his perfect mate should have? 3 How has he managed to stay single and somewhat focused when there are so many women throwing themselves at him? i have more but i Will most Def most more! Reply Leave a Reply Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published.CommentName* Email* Website Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Notify me of new posts by email.