Dating Diary: The Before Marriage Bucket List Heather Hopson April 19, 2013 Uncategorized 6 Comments I don’t think my life will end when I get married. I don’t think it will begin either. Perhaps the union will be the sequel, the to be continued or the happily ever after to my current single state of mind. I don’t live my life hoping and waiting for a husband. Yes, it would be nice if he comes riding in on a horse or in an environmentally friendly car, but he won’t bring happiness. I already have a smile on my face. Maybe he’ll turn it into a school girl grin that shows all my teeth. For now, I’m enjoying my journey. Relationships, and marriages, are hard work. So it’s nice to exhaust my energy on myself for now. Before I jump the broom, I hope to jump for joy when I complete my Before Marriage Bucket List. I urge all singles to create a checklist of their own. Feel free to steal some of my ideas! 1. Take a Trip Subscribe to a deal a day website, and you score an affordable vacation package for one. Travelling solo creates a high level of independence and self-reliance. Just make sure you select a safe city, and let your loved one know where you’ll be when you escape the daily grind. If you don’t want to travel abroad by yourself, select somewhere in another time zone. Or drive across the country, sightseeing along the way. If you can’t afford to go away, live in a hotel for the weekend. Then, relish in being able to pick a vacation spot without putting it up to a vote! 2. Break the Bank Not literally. But splurge on something special. Purchase a big-ticket item, like a designer purse or a surround sound system. And enjoy not checking in with your partner regarding the purchase. 3. Make a Mess Don’t make the bed in the morning. Leave your makeup or shaving products out on the sink. And let the laundry pile up another day before you want to go to happy hour not the laundry mat. There’s no one to nag you about following the cleaning schedule. 4. Take up a Hobby Swing by a club, pick up a paintbrush or beat a drum. Discover a new talent or find out one doesn’t exist like you thought. Try something new, and learn something new about yourself. Single or married, you should explore and establish your own individual interests. 5. Get a Makeover Rock that Halle Berry cut you’ve been admiring for years. Dye your hair bright blonde or perhaps purple. Get another tattoo or piercing. You will always have your individuality, but when you’re single, you don’t have to ask for your partner’s opinion or get unsolicited feedback. 6. Adopt a Child You don’t have to be married to be a mother or a father. Don’t wait on a ring to give a child a home if adoption has always been your dream. Give a young person a happy home and lots of love, no matter how many people are living under the roof. 7. Overcome a Fear Are you too scared to quit your job, start a business, relocate to another state, tell someone you love him/her, jump out of an airplane or climb a mountain? Look fear in the face, and step out on faith. You will be a stronger, wiser person on the other side of scared. Hey DFTM Fam–What would you add to the list? Married mammas, what was on your bucket list before you jumped the broom? 6 Responses Chasing Joy April 20, 2013 I love this. I am going to do my own BMB – Before Marriage Bucket List. Reply Janeane Davis April 21, 2013 Wow! When I got married, I was so young I did not even know what a bucket list was! That was 23 years ago! I like your bucket list though. It is really great. I will share it with my single friends. Reply newmom0608 April 27, 2013 Well, how about a marriage bucket list? You and your hubby can come up with some things you would like to accomplish together as a couple. Reply Brandi April 22, 2013 This is a really good list. I’d also add to be This is a great list. I’d also add to focus on your career. Become a real expert, because once you get coupled up, it may be more challenging to take the time to get better at your work. Reply GG April 23, 2013 Great list! If I’d had more time to be single, and for me that means no kids and no long term relationship, I would have traveled more first and spent more time trying to figure out who I was as an individual. it’s tough trying to figure that out when you already have a baby and a man in tow. Reply newmom0608 April 26, 2013 Tough, but not impossible! We constantly evolve as women! Reply Leave a Reply Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published.CommentName* Email* Website Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Notify me of new posts by email.