Dear Diary,

When I became a first time mom, I had a plan. A detailed plan. I planned to use organic only items. I planned to follow a somewhat strict schedule. I planned to always organize and never procrastinate. Then life happened. I pushed the plan aside and learned that I don’t have to be perfect to be a perfectly good mother.

Here are five things I swore I wouldn’t do as a new mom but do a year later.


Then: When I first brought my daughter home from the hospital, I only used brand name wipes stored in her wipe warmer.

Now: I realize that wipes are pretty much all the same. Perhaps some brands are more moist than others, but at the end of the day, most products produce the same result—a clean bottom. I make sure the wipes are unscented and hypoallergenic.


Then: I was scared to death—well not to death, but maybe a sick day—that my daughter would develop a diaper rash. I applied A&D ointment with every, single diaper change.

Now: I still use ointment on my daughter at night to keep her extra dry, but sometimes—ok, usually, skip that step during the day as we rush out the house to get to our destinations on time.

Then: Throughout the day, my daughter underwent more wardrobe changes than Beyoncé. I made sure she matched, even if she was only going to bed.

Now: Sleepwalking, I pull a top and a bottom from the closet. Sometimes it matches. Sometimes it fits. But it always fulfills its purpose. If my little girl falls asleep in her clothes, I let her be, as long as she’s not in jeans or tights.


Then: For the first ten months of my little one’s life, I was a stay-at-home mother. I tapped into my inner Paula Dean and whipped up gourmet meals in the blender, like butternut squash risotto and sweet pea puree.

Now: Sometimes I turn to pre-packaged meals as a time-saver. When my daughter doesn’t have an appetite, I give in and feed her French fries.


Then: I created a strict feeding and sleeping schedule to ensure my daughter received proper nourishment and rest. We followed the bath, book and bed routine.

Now: I make sure she gets three meals and several snacks a day, even if that happens at odd hours. She also sleeps in the bed with me most nights.

Hey DFTM Fam—What did you swear not to do when your baby was born but find yourself doing it a few months later?

About The Author

Vlog Mom/DFTM Creator

Not long ago, Heather Hopson hosted a television show in the Cayman Islands. Today, she's back home writing a different kind of story as a new mom. In her 15 years working as a professional journalist, this by far is her best assignment! Growing up, she dreamed of becoming Oprah Winfrey. She was the features editor for her school’s newspaper and a teen talk show host for her city’s most popular radio station. She went on to earn a bachelor’s degree in Journalism from Michigan State University. After graduation, she worked as a television producer and reporter at CBS, NBC and Fox affiliates throughout the U.S. Instead of heading to Chicago to join Ms. Winfrey on her set, she bought a plane ticket to the Cayman Islands instead. She arrived five days before a category five hurricane! She lived in paradise for seven years, hosted an award-winning television show and traveled the globe with a government delegation. She also served on the board of directors for Big Brothers Big Sisters and spearheaded a Send a Kid to Camp campaign. Then, she relocated to Washington, D.C. to obtain a teaching certification and instruct 8th grade reading at a high needs middle school. She later returned to her hometown of Pittsburgh, PA to raise her daughter Caitlynn, now 4-years-old. During her 10-month-stint as a stay-at-home mom, Caitlynn inspired her to create this blog, and Diary of a First Time Mom was born on Mother’s Day 2012. Two years later, she expanded the family to include 20+ writers. Currently, Heather serves as the communications director at Allies for Children. In addition, she is the owner of Motor Mouth Multimedia, which ranked #49 in Startup Nation’s Home-Based 100 Competition sponsored by Discover Card and Sam’s Club. Recently, The Pittsburgh Foundation and The Heinz Endowments selected Heather to receive an Emerging Black Artist award to develop Diary of a First Time Mom.

One Response

  1. Alisha

    I swore my kids would never sleep in my bed or me sleep in their room -_- LOL
    As long as we all get sleep I don’t care about where ANYBODY sleeps.


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